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The Logical Heart Knows Best

I was asked, “How do you know if you’re spending enough time with someone you love?”

I am all too familiar with this bittersweet feeling of being irresistibly drawn to and immersed exquisitely in deep, unbridled love, joy and appreciation in relationship with someone or something you love beyond description and measure while also needing to come up for air, yet afraid you’re not taking full advantage of the opportunity.

So human.

That’s the human condition exactly.

We are limited by these temporary bodies and our length of time here is not guaranteed. So we try to pack it all in as best we can despite our limitations.

At least I do!

We don’t want to miss out, but being human we have to surrender to our physical limits. We know that eventually things will change, nothing lasts forever and there will be an end.

It’s important to invest in experiences that create beautiful memories which deepen our connection, love and appreciation of one another and this wondrous world.

We have to cultivate the courage to take risks, explore, go on adventures and spend time just enjoying ourselves with loved ones. Letting go enough to be fully present in the moments with no fears about the future or baggage from our past. In this way we can know that we are doing enough, being enough, spending enough time with each other because there are no guarantees.

Being thankful for the time we do have and making peace with the fact that being a human being means it’ll never be enough simply because we’re limited by these bodies.

Logistics. Too bad we can’t teleport yet 🙂

From a spiritual energetic perspective, it’s always enough though, because there’s no end, we’ll always be together in spirit, forever, infinity in perfect love, we never leave each other because we are literally oneness in spirit.

This perspective helps me let go enough to be fully present, so I’m not grieving, clinging and lamenting constantly 🙂

I know that I think my fair share of the “shoulds.” I should be socializing more, making phone calls, messaging, connecting more…but the thought of it just makes me tired, lol. I used to try and keep up with all the social expectations/obligations like Christmas cards, birthdays, parties, etc. I finally decided that it just wasn’t worth it.

I didn’t have to engage in all of these activities to remain connected to people. Connection is an energy which is invisible and is an internal experience. The relationships that are deep and real do not require social constructs to maintain them and we can always pick up where we left off, no matter how much time and distance. We understand that our love is unconditional and ever-present.

Though it is wonderful to enjoy each other’s company, for real, like in person, we understand that we can’t be constantly engaged and it’s really okay!

It is so wonderful to know that there are friends and family that are thinking about you every day and sending you love. And it’s even better when you get to spend time together, like last month my relatives from California visited me! I hadn’t seen them in about 30 years! My son also came to visit and got to meet them for the first time! I had an amazing time reconnecting, reminiscing, enjoying them so much! I haven’t laughed that much and so hard in a long while 😀

It reminded me of how deep our need to feel like we are wanted and belong is. Family fulfills this deep-seated drive to be a part of a tribe, a team, something greater than yourself, to be accepted unconditionally. I felt truly loved for just being me, unconditional love and acceptance.

I always felt that way when I visited my extended family in California and also with my extended family on my mother’s side. Appreciated for just being me. Just enjoying each other’s company, laughing, joking, telling stories, playing, eating and having fun. They “spoiled” us and for that I am forever grateful. They were role models for me and showed me healthy ways of being. Yay!

Family can be anyone you love, you don’t have to be actually blood relatives. You can create your own family from all of the people who are best for you.

When you are enjoying such beautiful, loving relationships, you can’t ever get enough. You’ll always want more time together.

So you let go and enjoy it while it lasts. <3

Love and hugs y’all! 😀

Michelle Miyagi
Hi! I was an RN, BSN in mental/behavioral health for 27 years. Now I'm helping empower caring people like me to prioritize themselves by maintaining healthier boundaries for more freedom, peace, and joy. I am also active in Long Covid advocacy.

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