The Logical Heart Knows Best


Is it ever okay to be angry and frustrated? Is it reasonable to have expectations and boundaries? Do we just accept things the way they are and go about our business, not ever questioning, just staying silent, powerless, don’t rock the boat, that’s all the world is capable of, that’s just how it is and we just have to take it?

Is it vindictive to say this is not okay and to question whether the world and people are living up to their potentials?

Do we just stay out of it and take the path of least resistance? Accept things as they are. Or do we take a stand, enforce healthy boundaries and create positive change?

I get frustrated and angry, I admit it. But I don’t view that as being vindictive. Questioning if this is the best we can do is not vindictive to me.

Wanting people to live up to their responsibilities is not vindictive. Being frustrated with people being unconscious, stuck in victim mentality, not trying to personally develop themselves, yet complaining and wondering why things aren’t getting better for them or the world, is not vindictiveness. Wanting everyone to have equal rights, health and safety is not vindictiveness. Wanting a society ruled by what’s win-win for everyone is not vindictiveness. It’s fierce love. It’s the highest form of caring. To have the courage to call people and the world out, taking a stand and saying, not anymore.

Hell, I get frustrated with myself too, but I keep on questioning and trying to be the change every day of my life. If I can do it, then at least some of the world is surely capable of meeting the challenge along with me?

Is this really too much to ask? For people to grow up and be responsible for themselves? To especially be accountable for all of the children who are at our mercy?

I will continue to listen to my anger and frustration so I can make the healthiest choices. It’s not okay with me for people in my life to not go the extra mile and be responsible, to take risks, to have the courage to step up, to see the bigger picture and make the most loving decisions for themselves as well as all the others they may impact.

The immature, irresponsible people who don’t do adulting aren’t welcome here in my personal life and I am not afraid to express my truth anymore. I will speak up.

And I will no longer sit back and sacrifice my health and sanity to a system/society which devalues, objectifies and takes advantage of others.

I am a mama bear at heart, though I may come off as calm, gentle and submissive. Deep inside there’s a force to be reckoned with. The anger and frustration show me where I need to take a stand.

Trust me, it’s not vindictiveness.

I’ve just had enough.

I expect more from us.

I expect more from myself.

I agree with Marianne Williamson, we are supposed to be creating a “happy dream” here.

Is this a happy dream to you? If not, then what are you doing to help create a happy dream?

Honor that anger and frustration. Do something about it, even if it’s just being honest and speaking your truth, sharing your story.

You are the hero in your story.

What kind of hero do you want to be?

Guess I’m a mama bear 😀 Tee hee 🙂






Michelle Miyagi
Hi! I was an RN, BSN in mental/behavioral health for 27 years. Now I'm helping empower caring people like me to prioritize themselves by maintaining healthier boundaries for more freedom, peace, and joy. I am also active in Long Covid advocacy.

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