Hovering in Limbo

The Logical Heart Knows Best

I’ve grown accustomed to the unsettling feeling of uncertainty when you’re waiting to see what’s going to happen after making drastic life changes. When you change multiple areas of your life, experimenting, trying to find what works and you’re waiting to see what sticks.

Many things you won’t know until you try. After trying, you use your courage to say no to what isn’t a fit for you. There is a lag time where you have to wait and be patient while others get back to you to firm up arrangements, etc. During that time, you can often evaluate how others communicate, how their vibe is, which gives you valuable clues whether it’s a match for you. And once you interact more, often you realize your first impression and gut instinct was spot on and you either give it a longer chance to be sure or immediately vamoose.

I initially evaluate whether something’s a fit by questioning my sense of peace, does this feel like home in the pit of my stomach? Do I feel a deep warmth in my chest with a sense of belonging? If not, then proceed with caution. And as time goes on, I can tell more through concrete situations, environment, social interactions, etc.

It’s uncomfortable not knowing what’s next, not having all the answers, and being out of a comfortable routine. You grow the most and discover more about what you want and what qualities you may need to develop within yourself to further progress along the path you’re envisioning.

I’ve felt stuck and trapped, and the only way out is to get the energy moving and try something different. That’s scary though and requires effort, action, and courage.

Once you try different things, you see it wasn’t as difficult as you thought and you build confidence and strength by venturing out. You also develop trust in yourself and in the universe. You see things work out and fall into place when you choose to honor yourself by making the changes that are loving of you. Taking the risk and exploring sets the universe into motion so you can find what works for you. Everything opens up for you again. Opportunities present themselves because you’ve put yourself out there in the mix where they’re now within your reach.

It takes perseverance, trust, faith, a bit of surrendering, and the ability to stay focused on the present to cope with that in limbo, hovering feeling, waiting to land, waiting for everything to fall into place, but when it does, ahhhh…. sweet relief.

It’s interesting how the more you explore, the more you develop all the qualities that help you be uncompromising in following the path of your logical heart, which has a fair share of hovering in limbo times. The more you explore, the more practice you get with the uncertainty, and pretty soon you’re adept and it becomes just part of the process and doesn’t bother you so much anymore.

So much in life is just common sense, simple things that we used to do naturally as kids, but made it complicated and scary in our heads as adults. As kids, we naturally gravitated towards what was loving of us. We had no qualms about ditching something we’d outgrown for another thing that was more appropriate.

If you’re stressed out, unhappy, your job makes you feel you want to die, your relationship or friendships are driving you bonkers, whatever the problem, try something different, explore, make changes, just do something, start, even if it’s baby steps.

It’ll be unsettling. You may feel vulnerable, nervous at first, but it’s only a temporary step. It’ll get better and better because you’ll figure out what works for you. You’ll be able to see more choices, solutions, and possibilities. Your inner kid will kick in again and you’ll find that freedom, that pure, innocent power, and love 🙂 You’ll remember the joy of that free fall leap ending with a delicious refreshing splash into that cool pool of school is out for the summer possibility 😀

Don’t let limbo stop you!

Michelle Miyagi
Hi! I was an RN, BSN in mental/behavioral health for 27 years. Now I'm helping empower caring people like me to prioritize themselves by maintaining healthier boundaries for more freedom, peace, and joy. I am also active in Long Covid advocacy.

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