Drama-Free Zone

I’ve learned that once my trust in someone or something is broken it will be difficult for me to remain in a relationship with the person or an arrangement. It depends on how invested I am and if I believe that it’s worth the risk to stay. If I stay I will always be on guard and it will be tense and uncomfortable because I won’t feel safe. So it really doesn’t make sense to torture myself with such a tenuous situation, never knowing when they may betray my trust again.

In a relationship it depends on if the person commits to rebuilding the trust, It’s not an easy process and is typically not worth the effort. It takes two strongly invested and committed people to make it work along with an abundance of time. It may take years.

With an organization/arrangement, it’s much easier to cut your losses, it’s not as personal. You can easily find substitutions and keep trying until you find a better fit. If you don’t feel right, you can leave at any time, you have the power. I used to feel obligated and indebted when I was younger, so it was hard to say no to extra work or to speak up when I was treated unfairly. Now after so many experiences under my belt, it’s easy to cut ties and never look back.

The way I determine if someone is trustworthy is to observe if their words and actions are congruent. If not, I keep my distance. Sometimes you have to spend some time with the person or organization to get a clear picture, to have enough information to see if they are keepers or not. I’ve learned that I only want healthy, loving, caring, truthful, committed, ethical people, and organizations in my life.

It’s important to have healthy boundaries so you can maintain an optimal life. Why tolerate anything that is harmful to you if you don’t have to. Who gets to determine if it’s harmful or not? You do. I’ve learned how to use my discernment and it speaks clearly to me, I don’t stay confused for very long. I have built up my confidence through practice and know how to use it decisively. My life is extremely loving, deeply peaceful, and nurturing these days because I’ve fought hard to get here by trusting myself and having the commitment, courage, and strength to do what’s right for me.

I continue to speak up for myself and it empowers me to keep trusting my logical heart which helps me discern what is most loving of me. I am the one who has the most power within my life by listening to the guidance of my deep inner knowing and truth, the logical heart. It’s the place we are all connected to in oneness with the life force that has access to everything there is to know. I connect to that all-knowing voice from within and it never steers me wrong. That is what I trust most in this life, the truth of my logical heart, the higher, spiritual me that’s fully plugged into love.

And I like the saying “When someone shows you who they really are, believe them the first time.” My life would’ve run a lot more smoothly if I had known and adhered to that. I’ve always been prone to patience and giving people way too many chances while I suffer through their shenanigans. Over time I learned to value myself and got better at boundaries that were protective of me and now I have a low tolerance for violation of boundaries. I’m sharp and fast, drawing the lines so that I don’t get burned repeatedly. Once I figure out I’m in a situation where there are shady boundaries, I disappear out of harm’s way lickety-split. I’ve learned to recognize the crazymakers of the world and when they out themselves I am gone. Too much drama for me, I say bye-bye and please keep your distance.

I value my peace and tranquility. Of course, life isn’t always peaceful, but I aim to make my life as peaceful as possible. No drama zone for me.

I had a peaceful day today, my favorite part was Skyping with my daughter and then I ate a bowl of crispy salad on the balcony while enjoying the birds and flowers, then watered the thirsty plants. It was a breezy 75 degrees, so soothing. I felt like royalty. A rush of relief and gratitude washed over me, I felt free and knew that life was holding me and cherishing me. It’s all good I thought and smiled at the sky.