Covert Manipulation

I’ve dealt with more than my fair share of manipulative people in my life. I just shed the last narcissist from my life in 2020 and I’m free at last!

It took me a lifetime to get to this point, but as soon as I catch a whiff of that type of manipulative abuse and drama-making, I am outta there, lickety-split! It is a waste of time to try to tangle with a narcissist and hold them accountable. It’s a losing battle. I don’t even go there anymore, because I love myself and my sanity too much.

I grew up with people who had narcissistic and borderline personalities which led to me attracting and establishing relationships with similar people in my adult life too. It was normal and familiar for people to behave in that manipulative, volatile, unpredictable, abusive, Jekyll and Hyde way.

These personalities are charming and can keep up the facade, manipulate, hoover, and love bomb you, leaving your head spinning. The minute you confront them, question their authority, or hold them accountable, watch out! Their fragile egos can’t handle it and they will lie, gaslight, call you names, make you into a scapegoat, sic their flying monkeys on you, use triangulation and passive-aggressiveness, all to maintain their sense of superior identity and to retain their power and control.

Some of the manipulation is so subtle and nuanced it flies under the radar, they are super slick, slippery people, bordering on sociopathy. They mimic emotions without really feeling them, to make it seem they are empathetic and caring, just like you. It seems they may even find it pleasurable to toy with you and mess with your mind.

Their behavior is abusive and toxic. The healthiest thing to do is to go no contact or low contact with such people. Save yourselves.

I attempt to describe some of the subtle manipulations in this video. I hope it helps.

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