Jekyll and Hyde Personality

The Logical Heart Knows Best

If you’re in a toxic, manipulative relationship, people may not know what you are truly experiencing. Manipulative people are skilled at hiding their abusiveness in public. They may charm and be well-behaved in front of others, but are abusive at home or in private.

If you inform others about what’s really happening, trying to get help, the abuser may twist everything around, start a smear campaign, and blame you, saying you’re the problem, not them. These Jekyll and Hyde personalities gaslight, manipulate, triangulate, isolate, and do everything they can to keep power and control over you. At all costs, they will deny, minimize, rationalize, and avoid accountability.

They will have you questioning if it’s really you who is causing all the drama when it’s actually them. They violate your boundaries, abuse and manipulate you so that you react and fight back. Then they turn it around and use your fighting back as evidence that you are the abusive, unreasonable one. DARVO “deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender” is a commonly used manipulation.

It can make you feel you’re losing your grip on reality. The only people who understand are those who are familiar with these abusive personality traits. Many professionals are not knowledgeable about these toxic, abusive tactics. It’s important to seek help from people who know what you’re going through.

Support groups and specialists who deal with these manipulative personalities are excellent resources to help you disentangle yourself from the chaos.

When you reach your breaking point and decide to leave the relationship, they will suddenly say they’ll do all the things you’ve been trying to get them to do, like stop drinking, or go to counseling or get on medication. They are attempting to hoover you and love bomb you back into the relationship. If you agree, the changes are short-lived and they regress back to their previous behaviors, fooling you again.

I say you need all the help you can get when navigating these toxic relationships. Thankfully, nowadays there’s so much more help and awareness of these manipulative, abusive Jekyll and Hyde personalities. Asking for help is an act of strength. ♡

We can work together to create more loving, mutual connections from the depths of our Logical Hearts! If you are a caring person who is finding yourself growing more miserable and worn out, I’d love to help. Book a free call with me 

Michelle Miyagi
Hi! I was an RN, BSN in mental/behavioral health for 27 years. Now I'm helping empower caring people like me to prioritize themselves by maintaining healthier boundaries for more freedom, peace, and joy. I am also active in Long Covid advocacy.

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